Concerns have also been raised about bullying the bully
. The argument is that we don't kill murderers or rob thieves.
Yes but I don't think they intentionally 'bully
' others but only act in a way that they think is ordinary.
The issue, another academician Nosheen Rauf advised, should be handled subtly,involving both the bully
and the bullied children.
Sometimes they feel they are somehow to blame or feel scared that if the bully
finds out that they told, it will get worse.
In The Bully
Book, Eric Haskins has never had a problem with bullying until he enters sixth grade and the class bully
, Jason "Crazypants," and his supporters decide to make Eric the "Grunt." Eric doesn't understand what is happening to him until he finds out about "The Bully
Book," a secret guide that outlines how someone can "make trouble without getting in trouble, rule the school and be the man" and how to select the "Grunt"--the kid who will be at the bottom of the social ladder forever.
This target's character attributes are healthy, team-building traits, whereas consensus building, coorperation and collaboration are not a part of the bully
's arsenal of communication.
But one thing that is common is that something or someone is making the bully
feel insecure and the act of bullying helps them feel better.
Tips for Students About Bullying From a Former Bully
Unfortunately we can't change a bully
's behaviour but we can change how we respond to them.
Studies have shown that this is generally not the case and students don't tell an adult due a fear of continued intimidation by the bully
. The fourth myth is thatmost bullying occurs outside of school.
Ohanian gained enormous insight from his experience and in Chestnuts he offers keen insight not only into children who have been bullied but also those who bully
Families and professionals need to know that both the victim and bully
Helpful as well is the section discussing why some boys bully
and how to avoid or stop being a target.
(3) 1 in 7 students in Grades K-12 is eithera bully
or a victim of bullying.1Bullying statisticsshow that revenge is the strongest motivation forschool shootings and that harassment and bullyinghave been linked to 75% of school-shootingincidents.2 Eighty-seven percent of students saidshootings are motivated by a desire to get back atthose who have hurt them".2
McMahon confided after his school appearance that pointing out a bully
's imperfections may seem harsh, but he teaches kids to be assertive without being violent.