Though he cannot change his family's history, even as events occurring a century earlier have helped chart a course for his life, he must develop a separation from his parents' emotional lives that will release him from his enmeshment.
Milkman knows that he must "go solo" (220) in more ways than one, for his enmeshment with Ruth and Macon have prevented him from empathizing with other people.
His flight is both toward family (in affirming his relationship with Guitar and Pilate) and away from enmeshment.
In doing so, he learns the wisdom to understand and forgive his parents, and in this way he frees himself from his enmeshment.
When the child grows older and seeks independence, Minuchin argues, enmeshment interferes with autonomy and growth (51-66).
You Can't Do the Past Over": Milkman's Enmeshment and His Release
Her feeling of entitlement is a result of Pilate and Reba's enmeshment, their eagerness to give her everything.
Ruth learned her strategy for gaining power through a weakness in her childhood's family, a family legacy of her enmeshment with her father, Dr.
Milkman is the focal point of the novel's thematics of enmeshment.
Milkman, however, may be suffering from a depression at least partly a consequence of his parents' enmeshment with him, their desire to possess and control him completely.