My mother survived him, and in her last months, and even in her last days, she gave me and my family ample evidence of the difference between dying and being dead.
Hospice care is still controversial at many major medical centers today, for its goal is not to provide good treatment for the dying but to provide a good death.
The current hospital response of science to the dying reflects my own attitudes during those decades I worked in my lab.
If they are as frightened of death as everyone else, then their disdain for aging, death, and dying is a prophecy that keeps them from confronting their fears.
Peck's central objection to assisted suicide is that he sees both euthanasia and assisted suicide as "attempts to avoid the existential emotional suffering" associated with dying or a long debilitating disease.
We have an enormous amount to learn from the process of dying a natural death.
By facing and moving through the existential suffering brought on by the losses of dying, we may, according to Peck, be able to resolve long-standing questions, become reconciled with our families, friends, selves, and our God, and experience profound spiritual growth.
Ira Byock makes a number of the same points in Dying Well: The Prospect for Growth at the End of Life (Riverhead Books, 1997).
As proposed by right-to-die advocates, physician aid in dying is the direct prescription of lethal drugs intended to cause the death of terminally ill patients who request them and who meet specific criteria.
Reality dictates the necessity of such laws because, for some dying patients experiencing extreme suffering, a lethal prescription is the only way to end an extended and agonizing death.
The latest Gallup poll reveals that 75 percent of adult Americans favor aid in dying.
Nevertheless, some adamantly maintain that both litigation and legislation remove the issue from the realm of compassion and concern for the dying and into some sort of coldly detached alternate reality.